Shomik Roy

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Offline connections (or friendships as well call em)

There is a loneliness epidemic. The people yearn for offline connections. Everyone has opinions about the lack of social meetups.

“Oh everyone is busy with life, no one has time to meet anymore” - if I had a penny for the number of times I’ve heard this, I’d have enough to go offline and life off the grid forever. I understand life gets busy but it grinds my gears when people play victim.

If you find yourself losing touch with people you care and like, ask yourself why is it happening.

Most times, it’s due to a lack of either person initiating a conversation/meetup. Each waits for the other. Now this isn’t a sinister political mindgame. Everyone is busy with the mundane of the day-to-day.

Who breaks the chain? This is a hypothetical question. It’s YOU. Pickup the phone (that you’re glued to in your waking time btw) and instead of doom scrolling Twitter, message that friend you’ve thought about and invite them to grab coffee. Do this with 5 people.

Think of texting your friends periodically no different than brushing your teeth or going to the gym. Do it even when you don’t feel like it. Do it long enough and the friendships will come right back.

Friendships take work, or “offline connections” as they are called now. So put in the fu*!@ing work.

I really liked Dr. Gurner's tweet. If you are reading this article, you’re better off than most people in the world and should own your actions and reality.